Readings dealing with romance and love take precedence over all other readings, even money, especially money. It seems that if your love life is complicated or simply not working, everything else in life slides into the background. Some people, totally absorbed in the question of love, barely seem to function in the real world, so obsessed they are with the questions they have: Does he really love me? Is he cheating? Will he marry me? When will he marry me? Will he stay? Will he leave? Will I ever find true love?
Romance can be an obsession, like a drug. And more often than not, we’ll turn to the cards for the answers we must have in order to be able to return our lives to some semblance of normalcy.
Which suitor for me?
There are people out there, usually adventurous, carefree, self-assured, and flamboyant people who are not afraid to experiment with love. They try a little bit of this and a little bit of that, and they have no qualms about dating more than one person at a time. But eventually, when cupid comes knocking on the door, or their biological clock starts ticking so loudly they can no longer ignore it, these people will want to choose a mate. The problem is, which one to choose.
Remember, the pattern in which you lay the cards out is not the important point here, it’s the intention for which you lay out each card. As you’re laying cards for each individual, concentrate on this person, visualize them in your mind. See their face, hear their voice, smell their scent.
Lay these cards face up right off the bat. You want an up close and personal look at these individuals, and this includes all the character traits and real feelings that they might not be sharing with you. Are you surprised by what you see? What do you like about each individual, and what do you dislike about them? Are you reassured by what you see, or do the cards raise more questions?
This is where some of you doing this reading might find a surprise or two. Some of you might be reassured by a validation, and for others, you might discover new revelations that change the whole landscape of this scenario.
This reminds me of that game show, Let’s Make a Deal, remember? What’s behind curtain number two? But there was a hitch to this game, a way out, a way to save face. At the end of the show, if you didn’t like what you got, you had the option of turning it in for another chance, another curtain to choose from, another door to open.
Whatever the outcome, don’t allow yourself to be trapped by circumstances or expectations in a situation you still may have doubts about, or with a lover that leaves you questioning your choice.
Will he marry me? yes/no
This is the million dollar question. There are women who seem transfixed, mesmerized, obsessed, and insane when it comes to this topic. They will bend over backwards to flatter, to please, to change themselves to meet the needs of the man they have targeted. Some of these women don’t even realize that this is what they’ve done, targeted someone, but that’s pretty much what it boils down to. This instinct runs deep through the blood and the sub-conscious, it crosses cultural boundaries and assassinates common sense and any thoughts of independence. It rules the lives of girl children from the time they are old enough to be hypnotized and cultified by the likes of Snow White and Cinderella.
Sad, but true.
The easiest no nonsense way to ask this question is to cut to the chase and seek a direct yes/no answer. Before you ask the question, you will determine which cards in the tarot deck represent yes, and which cards in the tarot deck represent no. Here's a chart for you.
Will I find true love?
1) Lay a card to signify you, a card that you have chosen specifically.
This is usually a court card, one of the personality prototypes, but it doesn’t necessarily have to be. I talked with a lady once who considered the major arcana card ‘The Star’ her significator.
2) Across this card-- face down-- lay a card to represent the final outcome.
Don’t look at this card yet. You have other things to consider before you face the final answer to this question.
3) Lay three cards to represent your personal goals for the future.
Lay these cards face up right away. Even though you think you know what your goals are, you might be surprised at how enlightening the cards can be. Sometimes we have goals that we feel are so over the top, so out of reach, that we shove them to the back of our subconscious. It’s easier to pack them away than to face the challenge of meeting them and getting off our ass, stretching ourselves past our limits, and working to reach a dream we labeled as impossible.
4) Lay three cards to represent what attributes you seek in a mate.
Just exactly what are you looking for in your future lover and companion? Besides the obvious and clique -- tall, dark, handsome, curvy, intelligent, caring, blah, blah, blah -- the unexpected will pop up; and it will pop up in the form of personality traits, quirks, and characteristics that you maybe wouldn’t admit you’re looking for or you are not even consciously aware of. Lay these cards face up right away too, you might as well look your future lover in the eye. And, by the way, do you recognize this individual? The character that you see depicted in these three cards may very well be someone you already know.
5) Now turn the card from step two, the card you placed facedown, the card that represents the final outcome.
6) Looking at all of the cards, knowing what you see there, ask yourself the following questions:
1. Does the card representing the final outcome mesh with my personal goals for the future?
2. Would I be willing to compromise these goals to accommodate a mate?
3. Are the attributes I’m looking for in a mate realistic, or are they idealized?
You can interpret the final card using your own intuition and the card’s general meaning, or you can view this card as a yes/no answer using the yes/no guide found above.
Is my partner cheating?
This is one of the most intense questions that arises for relationship readings. Quite frankly, I feel that probably 90% of the people who ask me this question already know the answer, they are just looking to have it validated.
This is one of the most intense questions that arises for relationship readings. Quite frankly, I feel that probably 90% of the people who ask me this question already know the answer, they are just looking to have it validated.
1) Lay three cards representing your partner.
These cards should reveal a lot about them, both things you already know, as well as new insights into their personality, their behavior, what’s important to them, and any skeletons in their closet.
2) Lay three cards to represent you.
This is where it gets tricky, especially when you’re reading for yourself. We don’t always want an up-close personal look at our own psyche, our own motives, our own behavior. Sometimes we have ulterior motives, we just won’t admit it, even to ourselves. The idea here will be to look at these cards objectively and be honest with yourself.
3) Lay three cards to represent the truth.
You might like what you see here, or you might not. If you like it, rejoice; if you don’t like it, don’t sugar-coat it.
4) What do you really want?
This might seem like a strange question, but so often, on deeper reflection, we realize that we don’t want what we thought we did. Don’t become so addicted to fairy tale endings that you feel obligated to chase a dream that might wind up to be a nightmare.
5) The final outcome.
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